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Tough Times…HOPEFULLY Will Get Better (Personal), Then Some Pole Move Talk!
Hey everybody!!
Sorry long time no hear, just alot of madness going on around me. Worried about my mom, having an angiogram today, she spoke only quickly, but said something rather shocking and alarming, which I can find ZERO info. about online, nor getting answers from her, that she is missing 1 or more, (I thought she used the word arteries, but I won’t know more until after the test and she gets some answers to me), in and of itself, a miracle she trusted me with this info, she likes to keep secrets, but it would have been nice to talk more then a few seconds about a medical ordeal like this. *sigh*, so naturally I’m worried. Doesn’t sound very pretty at all, but I’m HOPING it’s something that isn’t as it sounds, HORRENDOUS, and turns out to be nothin major. Between that and my dad last week telling me, he feels the impending doom of a massive heart attack (He has 4 brothers, all of which have had heart attacks by, or around, his age, and open heart surgeries), I understand SOME fear, but he isn’t them, and is doing all he can, to take care of himself, yadda yadda, but when I try and offer support, I’m cut down. He’s just acting like next it’s his turn and he could be at death’s door, so it’s real nice to have your parents like this, and worrying about your hubby’s health, and all, it’s rough. It was definite time to grab the pole for some quick therapy. Best anti-depressant there is.
On top of it all, I must admit I have been secretly worrying about my own health to. Ever since my mom told me about something she saw on the news, how prior head trauma (concussions), can cause future problems like dementia and early Alzheimer’s, which is NOT something someone like me wanted to hear, I’ve been knocked out cold several times in accidents (non-pole related), along with a couple less serious blows, that were possibly concussions, I’ll never know, but that and also, recently hearing that from my Dr. alarmed me, having it confirmed by a news special as if these are sort of ‘new’ findings, and this is what’s inevitable for me, or so it FEELS like, when you have had my unlucky life in that dept, I mean it shakes you to the core, the mere thought of that happening to me, is REALLY stuck inside my brain.
I’ve always been a bit of a hypochondriac, admittedly, but this is one time, noone is talking me down and sayin, ’Nah, only in worse cases, like boxers and stuff, with like a ton of knock outs…you’ll be just fine’ or that means only like 1% of the people who have had this kind of history, it WON’T happen to you, chances are so so so so very slim on that, but can’t find that written anywhere or spoken either, by anyone I talk to, how am I supposed to feel? *Sigh*, I always thought I was just insanely lucky to be here w/o any horrible after effects, that someone has definately been looking out for me, and now i gotto be freaked out about what MAY happen down the road because of it?
I gotto be sooo careful, now more then ever, especially in a risky sport as this is, but thank God for it, cause it is the way to get my thoughts off of myself, and onto something much more happy and positive. Saftey is most important, especially to anyone who has been in my shoes, take heart in my story PLEASE! Any prayers you all could send to my family right now, I’d just REALLY appreciate it.
I know we’ll survive as we always do, gotto try and be +++, and strong, I’ve often wondered where the human breaking point on strength truly is, surely there must be one, but i should have reached mine sooo long ago, it isn’t even funny, yet here I stand, and sit, and pole, and type, and walk, and so, you truly can handle much more, then you ever imagined, take heart in that, those also who have been, or currently going through, rough times in your life. Don’t turn to the bottle, or pills, or anything damaging to you as a person, turn to your pole, it’s better then anything else you will ever find, and if YOU… (anyone of you) out there, ever need someone to trust, and talk to…I’m here for you, just as you all are for me:) . OH, the phone just rang…oops, had mom’s ring tone, but it’s only at&t, hey…I paid my bill, WTH, do you all want? lol.
ANYHOW on a brighter note. Today, I finally got my spinning superman, 1 move I found to look so simple, but turn out to be the most tricky of all, extremely surprisingly. Now that we are off the topic of grimness, and onto more positive things, let’s talk a bit about pole moves. Hmm…let’s see, I’m gonna ask myself questions and answer them, in case any newbies wanna compare their own answers, to my own, NOW & IN THE FUTURE.
What was the biggest nemesis I had early on, when I first started at the pole? Definitely the superman, but it became one of the simplest advanced moves to be done repeatedly, w/o incident, FOR ME anyhow, and so looking back hard to admit that was like THE impossible move to me, way back when, when watching others do it. Funny how that happens huh?
What was the most impossible move, even many months in? The damn knee hold. it’s a matrix kind of move, that just looks like it defies all gravity, but somehow is humanly possible. I just hate it cause I always feel it on my upper shin bone, no matter what, that sweet spot disappears, I guess I just don’t do it enough, but to me, its the MOST painful move, so who amongst us doesn’t avoid what hurts the most?What move gave me the hardest time learning? Cause of extreme ‘at first pain’, which I hope doesn’t happen to any of you all, cause everyone is very different… the damn shoulder mount. lol. I actually gave it up, it was soo painful on the side of my neck, it looked as if I was strangled or somethin for awhile there, and I am good with pain. I let it go for awhile and I’m not one for giving up without success, but even when I had gotten up and then down, it was a painful process I hated repeating, and just couldn’t imagine it ever feeling ‘normal’, and not giving me that sore collar bone and neck. Between you gals and me, I actually had tried cutting up maxi pads, thick ones to, and taping them directly to my shoulder for some comfort from the impact of the pole, but even that offered no relief. I don’t wanna scare anyone who hasn’t gone there yet on this move, it was just my personal story for whatever reason, but I will encourage by saying 2,000%, I PROMISE you, if you do feel the discomfort of the S.M maneuver, it will be short lived, and you WILL be able to do it countless times (EVENTUALLY) and without a pinch, or a burn, nothing, nada, zero, zip, so hang in there, never give up, but IF your not really ready for any particular move yet, I urge you to slow down, and take your time, the pole will always be there. Be kind to your body:) YOU ONLY GET 1!
What is my favorite pole move? Hmmmm…geez, I love so many of them, that’s a toughie, I have not thought about until this very second….I’d have to say it’s between the ‘Marley’, named by my good friend, miss boomloulou, that one hurt a bit at first, but became harmless through time as well, I love several spins, but my other favorite TRICK would be the extended butterfly. I think it’s really beautifully when it’s put to some slow music, and extended out so perfectly, it just can look really gorgeous. I love how the knee hold looks as well, I just have a personal HATE for it. I hope like the shoulder mount, that might change with time as well.
Whelp, I think this post was long enough for today, I’ll be back shortly, and I love you all for reading, and for caring. Your the best…I truly needed that vent:) happy poling my friends!!! XOXO
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OMG…! Parent Incompetence!
Hey everyone,
Welp off the topic of pole dancing, i took a trip to chuckecheese yesterday..OMG shame shame on this man, he left his lil newborn child, in an icy cold car for over 45 minutes- 1 hr… before SOMEONE, thank GOD, idk whom it was, but someone leaked the info, and got the police to come, and did they put him under arrest?? NO, they talked for a few minutes, and just LEFT, and this guy had the bowling balls to stick around, taking in the small child carrier, and proceeded to play at chuckeecheese as if nothing had happened. sorry i felt the need to vent my anger via video about it last night, lol, for those who wanna watch you can, but nothing much more then what i just explained. what is the world coming to, parents who don’t care about their children, who get away with it to boot…i was certain this guy would be dragged out in cuffs, perhaps a fellow officer? hmmm, gotto wonder, cause i just read a story about the same thing happening with a 4 yr old girl and daddy got arrested, and also caught in the bed of a 13 yr old girl. double shame on you. ughh just craziness in the world.ANYHOW, i hope everyone is well. Lately i’ve been turning into a nocturnal pole dancer, lol. i used to get up round 5 am, and get everything done before anyone woke, start out the day with a nice workout, and i notice for some reason, i haven’t figured it out yet, i’ve been staying up later, doing pole dancing at night, when everyone is asleep, and sleepin a hair later. can’t tell ya which is better, but i think i got a wee bit more energy in the mornings. a day in the life of a shelly is hard work, lol. but seriously, just noticed this change the past week. makes me wonder what time of day do you guys pole? morning, afternoons, evenings? heck if i were single, i’d probobly be stuck like glue to the darned thing. pulled muscles and bruises for sure? a kick butt body…for certain. i’d live forever, lol. pole dancing will probobly be the only hobby you’ll find in life, besides maybe sex, if your lucky, hehe, that you will definitely miss after a day or two of nothingness. seriously, i do miss my pole if a day or two goes by w/o dancing on it, but there is honestly never a day, maybe 1 in all my time doing this amazing activity, that i didn’t at least grab onto it for 1 lil swing or something, even if it were for 10 seconds. it’s like a ‘fix’ you just gotta have, hard to keep your hands off of it. boy guys are gonna be very jealous of these things, if all us gals feel the same way!welp time to brave the day. going to see ‘hotel for dogs’ later on. yes this is what my life has become, but hey..wouldn’t have it any other way, i’ll watch somethin more my speed tonight. much love to you my pole dancing pals!xoxo, ShellPS- VIDEO BELOW -
My 1st Blog Post!By exdiva69 on January 17, 2009 | No Comments
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COOL, my 1st blog entry, on my own site, that’s pretty wild:) So how is everybody doing today? Well I hope. Welp, today is January 17, 2009. Really busy today, so no time for pole dancing, I’m afraid, *sigh*, I will definitely try to get in a good session tomorrow morning. Since nothing much is goin on to really talk about on my end, nothing interesting, which is unusually ‘odd’ HA, (BTW- all my thanks to those who kept hubby in their thoughts on youtube, blood pressures have gone down on all ends, hehe), but anyhow, being that that is the case, (nothing exciting to report), I guess I’ll just talk a bit about the pole dancing ‘art’ to those who see this site, and really don’t know, what it’s ‘all about yet’.
Well, 1st off, it’s a wonderful way to keep yourself in top physical shape. Noone who pole dances will ever deny you that 1. Pole dancing builds muscle, it’s a definite form of strength training, so you should expect to look more sculpted, and in not much time, at that. It’s also an aerobic form of exercise. I don’t use it to lose weight, I’m never happy with myself, I can lose weight feel too thin, gain weight purposely, and feel fat, there is really no perfect ‘number’ that makes me happy, so I can’t say for me, if it helps to lose weight, in my case, but it does help your body and shape, for sure. Since it is aerobic, much like other aerobic forms of exercise you are burning calories, hence, you can lose weight from this form of exercise, I’ve heard many other women, who have, & some i’ve seen the results firsthand on youtube, so these are all the things i can truthfully announce here, but like i said, i can’t attest to myself, because i’m not big on the whole scale thing. lol. I don’t like #’s dictating my life, but other’s who pole dance sware it does help in that dept. You don’t have to be any particular shape or size to do this form of exercise, everybody is allowed, I’ve seen some girls whom are larger, REALLY work the pole like nobody’s business, so stigma’s are thrown out the window. No right size to start or to continue and even compete in this great sport. This exercise DEFINATELY turns fat into muscle, which will help kill the giggle, as you wiggle..ahhh the poet in me coming out, lol.Anyhow, the biggest thing I notice in my ‘mental’ life, is a definite LIFT. I’m not here writing to sell anyone on anything, I like to talk, and inform, and be REAL, so if you’re readin this it’s cause you choose to, so thank you for that, but all I can do is vouch for myself, and what pole dancing does for me, I can tell you what I hear from others, that they may agree with me, but I don’t put words in people’s mouth, for ME, mentally, I feel like I definitely have a bit more energy then I used to, require less sleep to feel ’sane’ lol, more ‘peppy’, deal with stressful situations a bit better then I had, which anything is a step up, I still get stressed, but if I hit the pole when I am in a stressed state, I notice almost an instant feeling of relief. Don’t take your anger and stress out on your man, or your mom, or even on yourself, which we know we ALL do, take it out on that pole!! It will work you wonders , and if you don’t believe me, you haven’t given it a go, have you?Admittedly, I’ve had a history of depression growing up etc, really hard life, and a lot of anxiety, so for me, the time I’ve spent poling, has really added up to extra years on my life, cause I was always a daily worrier, so I need constant stress relief, and this is the closest I’ve ever come to finding something that works. POLE DANCING…the ‘natural tranquilizer’. Again, only can speak for myself, but when I tell others how I describe pole dancing, as ‘therapy for the soul’ they couldn’t agree more, and I’ve been through regular therapy years back, I think I was wasting my money, I should have bought myself a pole. Now, over. ummm 30, geez that hurts, my daily, BIGGEST, regret, that is never, ever gonna go away, is my regret of not starting this sooner. I thought about it years ago, but the stigma was sooo widespread, that I failed to even think that there might be an online resource to simply ‘buying’ a indoor pole, I thought I’d need someone to do a custom job, someone who makes them for strip clubs or something. I brought it up to a friend in construction, and somehow let it go, thinking right now *IDIOT*, lol…now knowing those years ago, home poles were available, makes me CRAZY, cause I’d have so much time under my belt, and maybe extra years on my life span as well.BUT I digress…The stigma must become, and must stay BROKEN! Pole dancing, is not just for money making, I’m cool with whomever chooses to do it, and pass no judgement, I’ve always been a friend to all, but the entire planet needs to adopt this ‘open’ way of thinking. I believe we are headed there slowly. I can see it now…poling in the Olympics. I’ll be too old, but I’d love to watch someone here or on youtube, or both, that I know, runnin with the torch, representing their country at the Olympic games, and I don’t think it’s a matter of IF, but purely a matter of WHEN, in my own opinion. Heck if rhythmic gymnastics is an Olympic sport, I think this is even more beautiful, so why not?At any rate getting back to my original topic…what pole dancing will do for you, as per my experience only.. gives you energy, burns fat, builds muscle, releases stress, and definitely for me, provides mental clarity. the pole can be your best friend, or your punching bag to take your anger out on, either way, your benefiting your spirit, mind, and body, while not hurting someone else’s feelings or needing a pal to come out and talk to you , but she’s TOO busy, and your all alone, does that make any sense? I sure do hope so.I used to do gymnastics as a kid and teen, up until a bad accident at 16. I shouldn’t be typing this right now, but by the grace of God, somehow, and for some reason, I am. Since then, it’s been impossibly hard for me to find any exercise I would stick with. I tend to get bored and frustrated easily, and so I’d pick up a sport or hobby, and nothing intrigued me, like the gymnastics, I no longer could do. Everything else just didn’t cut it enough to keep the motivation coming, until I bought my pole. I’m certain hubby was thinking, ‘Ok there she goes making another expense, that will collect dust’, BUT HA ON YOU HONEY..this time, u be wrong:) The best investment I’ve ever bought for my own personal use, has been my pole. I remember saying I got my monies worth, less then 1 month in. I’ve never been this motivated, hard to imagine, cause it might just look like a big steel pole, but somehow it becomes soo much more. hard to describe, but I’m sure many can relate, if you’ve been there, done that. Never a day of regret about it, except like I said, not researching it more, so I could have started it, way, way sooner. I will never let that go, unfortunately.Soo, I’ll stop chewing your ear off today, and just finish with saying, THANKS for visiting this website, I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to do so, and to read this post, and I hope whether you’re thinking about poling, or are poling already, you feel like you have a friend out there in the poling community who supports your hobby. So many of us over on youtube, are supporters, there is no HATE, not negativity, just praise, and encouragement over there, so come and join us, if you haven’t already, and welcome aboard:)((HEART))Shelly
